Us parents definitely do need a day off. Society always talks about how the people who are working all sorts of crazy hours a day, need a day off. But what about the parents who are doing that, 24 hours a day, as well as balancing whatever else is going on in life. It’s no secret that being a parent is so hard, yet it’s one of the most rewarding things that you’ll ever do. You’ll have either planned to become one, had a little surprise come along, or perhaps even a miracle if you had a hard time conceiving. So when you finally get to experience the joy of raising a child, you can’t help but relish in the beauty of being their parents. But those bittersweet moments don’t last very long. It won’t be long until your contemplating the choices you made to become a parent, and find yourself begging for a day off. Not just a morning or an evening off, a full 24 hours out of action, so you can feel a free life again. We want to explore why this is so important for parents, and how you can actually make sure that it happens. Keep on reading to find out more.
The Stress & Anxiety
These are two of the biggest reasons why we feel like we need a day off or two from time to time. Stress and anxiety are one of the leading causes in depression amongst adults. So many people have it for so many different reasons. But a lot of parents get it because they’re so overwhelmed with the life they’re leading. Children become your whole life, and trying to keep them safe and happy, as well as raise them right, becomes a daily challenge. It’s not as though you’re going yo be able to hand them over for a day or two all of the time. Unless of course you’re co-parenting with someone, but even then that can cause enough stress and anxiety on its own. So, we think it’s so important that you have some sort of outlet to help you to manage this. Perhaps try yoga, regular meet-ups with a friend for a gossip, or anything that you think is going to help you to relax every single day. If you don’t find a daily outlet, that stress is just going to build up and up, until it turns into a harder to manage depression.
The Need For Romance
The need for romance has never been more important in this day and age. It’s no secret that marriages and relationships are failing quicker than they’re beginning. We think a lot of it is down to the lack of dating that happens when couples rush into family life. They get used to just staying in with the kids, and the romance slowly dies. So we think one of the reasons why you need to realise the importance of having a day to yourself is so that you can keep the spark alive between you and your partner. Nobody wants to be part of the statistic of couples breaking up, and nobody wants to break a family apart. So to keep the romance alive, focus on the date night’s that you used to do when you were getting to know each other. Those are the days where the romance between you has never been higher, and you were loving each others company!
Organising A Day Off
So now it comes to the organisation of the day off. You need to make sure that you’ve got someone you trust to look after your children throughout the whole day and night. Often you can’t rely on family and friends to do the whole stint, and you might not be comfortable with asking them. So you could hire a nanny to do part of the day for you, and ask family or friends to do the night. At least once a month you’re going to have the chance to ask someone to do this. Ask more and people might start to comment on it not being fair. You should also take the time to find a nanny that you trust to look after your children. You then have a reliable, friendly face to call on whenever you feel like you need a night to yourself.
The Major Benefits
There are some major benefits to this, and the main is to help you feel as though you have control over your life still. It’s so easy for family life to take over when you’re not having that time and space to yourself!
*This is a contributed post. While Amber didn’t write it, she feels this is a great fit for you all 🙂