My friend, Sarah gave me this card before she moved off to Texas. It took me two days to actually open it and read it after our last meet up.
I’ve been putting off this post for a bit over a week now.
Every time I sit down to write it up, I walk away and get distracted (on purpose) because it’s kind of a sad post to write.
Part of being a military spouse means you move just as much as he does, so every 2-3, 3-4 years you’re saying goodbye to those friends you’ve met.
And I’ve touched before on how hard it is to even make friends.
I’ve been shit on when it’s come to meeting people in the past so once we got here I just didn’t even want to try to meet anybody or make friends.
Then when I do finally make friends, they move or we move.
It’s not “goodbye”, it’s “see you soon” or at least that’s what we hope. We say that to our husbands, to our family, to our friends.
Aside from being married to a soldier and the difficulties that come with that, military friendships are in a whole different category.
I’ve kept in contact with one from Alaska and lost touch with another which is really sad because I adored her but I know we both move on, get busy, get distracted with kids, life, etc etc.
I’m Facebook friends with the friends we made at Fort Knox. I love seeing everything that they post and share but I miss them. We’ve grown apart, we don’t keep in contact, it’s part of moving and moving on.
It’s sad; it’s bittersweet. Don’t get me wrong, I’m so thankful for the time that they were my main friends, my close friends and I’m glad that we’re still updated on each others’ lives.
I wish it was easier for me to make friends. I wish a year didn’t pass before I finally made friends at our new duty station. I wish I could just be like, “Hey! I’m Amber! This is my number, let’s hang out” but that’s not me. I’m reserved. I hold back. I usually won’t send the first text, I won’t send the Facebook friend request. I’m old fashioned, I’m scared to get hurt, to get crapped on by friends, to make friends and then not like them later on, I’m scared to get put into bad situations because of friends, etc etc…. the list goes on and on.
So dear “temporary” friends:
Please know that you’ll forever hold a place in my heart.
Please know that during our time together, I loved being your friend.
Please know that I truly thank you for being there for me; for being MY friend.
Know that I hope we meet up again.
Know that I hope when we do, we pick up like no time was spent apart.
Know that I will forever look back on such & such duty station with fond memories of our friendship.
Know that I love you bunches and bunches!
Know that I wish nothing but happiness in your futures.
It’s not “goodbye”, it’s simply, “see you soon, friend”.