The night my kids lied to me.
Well, two of the three lied to me. They were upstairs, David and I had said that they could have a sleepover even though it was a school night because they were all congested and it just made sense to put the humidifier in there with them – kill 2 birds with 1 stone kind of thing.
Well, this brand new humifidier sometimes leaks if it’s tilted a bit or if the cord ends up under it; super annoying, but it happens.
David and I are sitting there watching TV and settling in on the couch when they come downstairs talking about a big spill! “The humidifier leaked” Fin said to me. I sighed and headed upstairs only to discover a giant puddle of water. I could already tell that they were trying to keep something from me so I looked at Maddie and at Fin and asked what happened. “It leaked” Maddie said…. And at the same time Fin starts saying, “well… you know how it leaks sometimes… it did and…”. All while Owen yelled, “Maddie knocked it over!”
So I say, “Guys…. it doesn’t leak a big puddle like this, what really happened?”
They stick to their story.
So I say, “it doesn’t leak like this!! Who spilled it?”
Owen without missing a beat says, “MADDIE!”
I look over at Fin and then over at Maddie. I ask, “Did you both just lie to me?”
They both just slowly nodded then go on to explain that it was an accident.
At this point, I’m not even mad. I’m shocked! I’m sad! I’m just standing there like an idiot at a total loss for words!
I gather my thoughts and say, “Guys… this wouldn’t have happened if you were actually laying down like you were supposed to be. I’m not even mad! I’m sad! I’m really sad! I’m sad that you guys completely lied to me! Have you ever lied to me before?” They both shook their heads no.
“How am I supposed to believe that? You just lied to me! Don’t I deserve more respect than that?!”
At this point, Fin is crying; quietly sobbing while tears stain his cheeks. Maddie is just blankly starring at the floor.
I go on, “I’m so nice to you guys! I’m a really good mom and you guys lie to me like this?!” Fin starts apologizing over and over again – it’s really hitting him how serious that one little lie was and you could just see how awful he truly felt about it.
I say, “No more sleepover. Go to your own rooms”
Owen asks if he can still sleep with Fin. I agree & tell him to get in the bed because the floor is soaked.
Fin climbs in bed next to Owen just bawling and Maddie walks into the hallway.
Maddie asks if she has to go to her room. I told her yes because she lied to me.
She loses it. I mean just starts screaming and crying. (I think this is where it hit her how upset I was).
We walked downstairs together, I paused once we got to the kitchen and told her again that I wasn’t mad and that I loved her and that when she got to her room she needed to stop crying because that was enough.
She cried all the way to the basement door, closed it carefully behind her and headed to her room where she completely stopped crying.
And then I told David about it. I told him that despite the lying, that we have some really great kids and that I really think they both understood why that was such a terrible thing to do. He then went and had a conversation with them both about it as well. I’m not sure of what he said but tears were flowing again. He came back to the couch a few minutes later and all was quiet with the kids.
Today we woke up totally normal.
Hopefully they won’t lie to me like that again.
Hopefully they truly understood how upsetting that was.
Hopefully David & I handled that right.