I don’t understand how you can go from hating someone to being their BFF again the next week.
I don’t understand how people can kill other people.
I don’t understand how people can judge other people.
I don’t understand how people can blame others for their faults.
I don’t understand how people tYp3 L!k3 Th!s. (Do you see how bad I am at that?!-haha)
I don’t understand how people can try to drag others into their mess.
I don’t understand how people can torture each other.
I don’t understand how people just bash each other over and over again.
I don’t understand how people can just sit and spread such vicious lies about each other.
But today I’m just going to talk about friendship.
I know some friendships slowly dwindle and fade, it’s part of life and I am thankful for that friendship-it was what I needed at that time in my life.
But what I don’t understand is friendships that are only out of convenience or location.
A while back, I had a “friend” of 6 years choose her fiance (read;current boy toy) over me. She let him say all sorts of HORRIBLE stuff about me and then let her 21 yr old still lives and mooches off her parents pothead rockstarwannabe friend jump in on this… and all the while just sat back and watched the drama unfold. Thank God for the UNFRIEND and BLOCK buttons huh?!
SIX years down the drain….
On the other hand, my friend, Jenny G has been my sister since 7th grade!! (I graduated in 2003, you do the math) and we hardly speak, haven’t seen each other in years and I know that NO MATTER WHAT, I could call her at any given time and cry my eyes out or just tell her some funny story and there would be no awkwardness at all.
Being a military spouse, you move a lot. You meet new people all the time and you too often come across bad apples in the bunch. As if it isn’t hard enough to make friends in this lifestyle, people have to go all crazy on you?! COME ON NOW!!
(in case you can’t tell, this is far from my usual post and my feelings are probably coming out more than i intended them to).
Just this afternoon, my husband and I were having this conversation about how hard of a time he is having making friends. Between his rank and age he is VERY limited friendship wise. I see his point and I’m sad for him. Everyone needs friends. Good ones!! But at the same time, I almost envy him. I’d almost rather not meet new people and not make new friends just to avoid those few bad ones that hurt your feelings and then talk about it so much that it makes YOU look like the crazy one.
Then he said something along the lines of, “I wonder if we’re the bad ones” because we’ve honestly gone through a few of those let’s try to be friends with them…they seem nice…….OK NEVERFUCKINGMIND!! RUN RUN!! friendships. I assured him that it wasn’t us and that you don’t HAVE to be friends with everyone. Everyone doesn’t have to like everyone. If you don’t like me, no problem! If we all liked each other, we’d be LYING! Just don’t pretend to be my friend. Ya know?!
I know this post is all rambly and probably doesn’t make much sense…but it’s my blog and my post and my way of venting. 🙂
So dear “friends” please go fuck yourself.
And dear FRIENDS, thank you for being true.
To sum it up, I will NEVER understand people.