Some of us are just not dress wearers, and feel much more comfortable in pants. Sometimes though, you need to put on a dress on. Whether you’d like to wear a dress to feel good at a frmal event, or you’ve been asked to wear a dress as Maid of Honour at your friend’s wedding, you need to learn to feel confident and comfortable in dresses, even if they’re not usually your thing.
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Work Out Your Style
One of the easiest ways to feel better about a dress is you to bring in some elements of your personal style that you already know make you feel good. Do you live to wear bright colors? Do you like stripes, or a certain sleeve length? Maybe you like a rocky look, or maybe you’re more about a country feel? Whatever your personal style is, use some of these things to help you choose a dress that won’t push you as far outside of your comfort zone.
Do Some Research
If you don’t usually wear dresses, it can be hard to know where to start when you go shopping, and you might struggle to even work out what you want to try on. Get on Pinterest and start looking at ideas. Pin anything that appeals to you and see what similarities these outfits have. You can search by the those personal style elements you already identified and look at terms like ‘long-sleeved dresses’ or ‘polka dot dresses’. Keep an eye out for pins of women who are a similar shape to you or seem to have similar style.
Plan The Outfit In Advance
Don’t just buy the dress and leave it at that. If you’re not used to styling a dress, you could find yourself standing in front of the mirror in mismatched shoes and three handbags, wondering how on earth to style this new piece of clothing. When you’ve bought the dress, spending time in your wardrobe playing dress up. Try on the dress with different shoes, bags and other accessories until you find a whole outfit you like. Do this in advance so you’re not stressed out on the day of your event. Lay this outfit out the night before so you’re immediately ready to go as soon as you need to get ready.
Find Something That Makes You Feel More Comfortable
What is about dresses that usually makes you uncomfortable about wearing them and what can you do to combat that? If you avoid dresses because you don’t like to show your legs, then choose a longer or maxi style dress. If you find them restrictive, choose a stretchy fabric or a fuller skirt that doesn’t pin your legs together. If you find them impractical, choose a dress with pockets.
A bit of pampering ahead of putting the dress on could help too. A fake tan instantly makes your legs look leaner, more toned and more bronzed and can help with nerves about getting your legs out. Have your nails done or get a blow-dry, so you hands and hair look great and make you feel good. Spend some extra time putting your make-up on, and get out your favourite lipstick, so you feel beautiful and polished.
If it’s your waistline that’s making you not want to put a dress on, then you could invest in shapewear to create a smooth line under your dress and disguise any lumps and bumps. You might feel better if you feel supported under the dress.
Boost Your Confidence
Is there something about your dress that’s putting you off? There are some easy little tricks to help you feel confident. For example, if you’re worried about the top of the dress being too revealing, buy a cute cover-up like a cardigan or a wrap. Hide your legs away with tights if you’re worried about the length of the dress.
Hit the gym the morning of your event. No, it won’t change your body, but it will release endorphins and make you feel confident and less anxious.
When you’re dressed, stand in front of the mirror and give yourself a little pep talk. It sounds silly, but saying kind things to yourself can make you feel a lot better. Imagine what your best friend would say to you about the dress. Of course, you could also just send a selfie to your best friend and get those compliments for real! You’re bound to feel more confident after someone you love tells you that you look beautiful.
** this is a contributed post. While this post was not written by Amber herself, she has approved it for you and hopes you enjoy it**