And apparently in the 3rd grade, it’s no different.
Fin came home from school last week talking about how a kid in his class wanted to trade Minecraft horses with him. I assumed they were friends & had been talking about their toys and what not. David staright up said, “No! You keep your toys”. I agreed with him on not trading (especially since Fin didn’t want to trade).
Okay, no big deal…. school conitnues.
We wake up this morning to a house of tears & anger…..
I’m settling Owen on the couch for his early morning cartoon marathon and making sure Maddie’s awake when I hear Fin say, “Daddy… do you remember the kid who wanted to trade horses?”
I continue my business and then realize that Fin is crying! David is fuming! David yells at me, “DID YOU KNOW ABOUT THIS?!” I’m standing there like, “What just happened?!”
Apparently on Fin’s way to the bus yesterday afternoon, he accidentally bumped into this same kid. The kid then started to yell at Fin & it eventually led back to the damn horse! Fin says that the kid yelled, “If you don’t bring me your horse, I’m going to punch you in the face!!” Fin goes to walk away to tell his teacher (what we’ve told him to do in events such as these) when the kid grabs the back of Fin’s shirt, jerks Fin back and tries to slap Fin in the face. Fin gets away from him & hops on his bus.
He then forgets about it and brings it up to David the next morning.
David tears out of here to go talk to the teacher, guns blazing! (He didn’t even shut the garage door, he was in such an upset rush) I’m left to finish up getting the kids ready for school all the while trying to calm Fin down.
David calls a few minutes later, the principal & Fin’s teacher are going to call the boys in to talk about what happened.
Fin’s teacher calls a bit later to ask if I knew anything about the kid (we didn’t even know his name when Fin was telling the story). Fin tells me and then tells me it happened on the way to the bus (which explains why he couldn’t tell anybody).
His teacher tells me that they’re going to talk to M (the kid) about it & that there will be consequences. I apologize if David was rude or overly aggressive, she said that she understood completely but said that it was probably not in Fin’s best interest to punch the kid back. I laughed because David stands by that method all the while, I’m like, “No, Fin! Don’t hit back” even though the mom in me wants to tell him to beat the every loving crap out of this little jerk boy, the logical mom in me tells him that hitting isn’t the answer & to just find a teacher.
I did tell Fin later though that it’s probably a good thing he forgot to tell me about it, or I’d have probably punched a little 3rd grade fuckface…. (I wouldn’t have at all) but it made Fin laugh. I told Fin that the kid sounds like a real jerk & to just keep away from him.
Fin says that M does this stuff all the time…. that he yells at his own friends like that if they bump him or touch him accidentally too. When Fin’s teacher heard me say the name, her tone changed into a “that’s who I expected” kind of tone & Fin said that this wasn’t the first time M has gotten in trouble for stuff like this.
Bullying 7 year olds over a LEGO piece.
I’ve never really had to deal with anything like this.
Once in school, my sister was getting picked on and all I had to do was be a big sister! I walked my happy butt down to her end of the school & told her to leave her be or she’d have to deal with me (and my whopping’ 60 pound stick figure self) but it was enough to stop the elementary school bullying but times are definitely different now – it’s my child, I’m not just the big sister… I’m an adult. Getting angry doesn’t really help in situations like this… you have to keep cool and proper when inside you’re definitely wanting to lose your cool on a 3rd grader. The struggle is real, people! Parenting is hard!
How do you handle something like this?
What’s your solution?